Kate came home a couple of days ago
and told me that she found out why her best friend
had been so snarky with her lately.
I had asked her about it earlier in the week
because I had noticed some tension between them
and her friend commenting on Kate's
"being so immature" a couple of times
in a fairly snide tone.
Girls can be like this sometimes, mine included I'm sure,
so like I said, I commented on it and let it go.
Anyway, back to the story...
she tells me that her friend (whom we'll call friend A) had been being snarky
because their mutual friend (friend B) had decided that Kate is "immature"
and was deciding if she still wanted to be her friend or not.
So Friend A is caught in the middle and feels torn
and is subsequently snarky.
Friend A tells Kate this mid-way through last week
and has decided to maintain her friendship with Kate.
I have no idea what Friend B has decided.
This is the same Friend B who doesn't eat mammal.
I had a talk with Kate about
the quantity of friends mattering less than the quality;
that you never compromise who you are to be someone's friend;
that someone who asks you to be someone you aren't isn't a friend you can trust.
She seemed to get it.
I hope so, anyway.
Long story short, fast forward to today:
Kate has a friend over after school to play.
We'll call her (wait for it, wait for it...) Friend C!
Kate and Friend C had a freaking blast.
They jumped on the trampoline,
did each other's makeup,
dressed up in silly costumes,
played on the piano and took pictures on the Mac.
In short, they were two girls, both at or near 13,
ACTING LIKE GIRLS AT OR NEAR 13.
NOT acting like high schoolers
or trying to be more than they are.
They were kids, having kid fun.
Uninhibited, laughing girl fun.
This is how it should be.
These girls, friend A, B and C,
should still be able to be children.
Life is going to come crashing in soon enough.
Pressures will be strong in a year and a half
when they start high school-
preparing for college and all of that stuff.
If that makes my daughter immature,
not being ready for all that pressure,
than by god, I am doing something seriously right.